Substance...
Do not assume that others understand how you feel, or that they know what you are going through - because they don't. They do not have the exact experiences that you've had, they are of a different personality and no 2 humans are alike. Some have faced more struggles, others have never tasted bitterness. Some have greater resilience, others have never relied on themselves for anything. They come from different family backgrounds, have different perceptions of the value of money, friendship, family and power. Some have suffered abuse, others have never lacked in receiving love.
By assuming others think the way you think and react the way you react, you pile on them unrealistic expectations that they will never be able to meet. You'll end up more disappointed than you started with.
Open up your heart to those that do not claim to understand, to comprehend, to have the solution or encouraging words... but have offered to stick with you by your side so you do not go through it alone. These are the people that will not pile any expectations on you, because regardless of whether you come out better or worse it doesn't matter to them. They care more about being with you through the process than celebrating with you with the end results. Everyone wants to be your friend when you're the survivor, but few claim association when you're trying to survive.
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People will never learn.
Whoever gossips to you will one day be gossiping about you. These are the people that I do not feel safe with my thoughts. People who like to talk to other people about other people will always end up talking to other people about you. They are not wanting to know things because they care, but because it is their way of life. That is how they build their friendships, by talking to people about others. They make you feel like you matter to them because they provide you with stories and they seem interesting. And mind you, these people are smart too, they rarely talk to you about themselves. Gossippers trust gossippers only with gossip, never themselves.
Sadly, rumours and gossip will never be eradicated. Trust is given and respect is earned. By storing trust when it is given to you, you earn respect. Pick your friends wisely. Good friends to call your own are hard to find.
WillZ
By assuming others think the way you think and react the way you react, you pile on them unrealistic expectations that they will never be able to meet. You'll end up more disappointed than you started with.
Open up your heart to those that do not claim to understand, to comprehend, to have the solution or encouraging words... but have offered to stick with you by your side so you do not go through it alone. These are the people that will not pile any expectations on you, because regardless of whether you come out better or worse it doesn't matter to them. They care more about being with you through the process than celebrating with you with the end results. Everyone wants to be your friend when you're the survivor, but few claim association when you're trying to survive.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
People will never learn.
Whoever gossips to you will one day be gossiping about you. These are the people that I do not feel safe with my thoughts. People who like to talk to other people about other people will always end up talking to other people about you. They are not wanting to know things because they care, but because it is their way of life. That is how they build their friendships, by talking to people about others. They make you feel like you matter to them because they provide you with stories and they seem interesting. And mind you, these people are smart too, they rarely talk to you about themselves. Gossippers trust gossippers only with gossip, never themselves.
Sadly, rumours and gossip will never be eradicated. Trust is given and respect is earned. By storing trust when it is given to you, you earn respect. Pick your friends wisely. Good friends to call your own are hard to find.
WillZ
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